The most difficult part about this journey has been the loneliness.
Finding other women to talk to (specifically women in a similar situation) can be hard to damn near impossible, depending in where you live. It’s not like most of us can walk into the local lesbians-who-are-married-to-men suppprt group. Some areas may not even have a local LGBT center. And since privacy is such an important factor with this issue–we are talking about married women having loving and sexual feelings about other women, after all–some ladies are not willing to take the chance of seeking support for fear of being outed.
Understood. I’m right there with you.
The fear and anxiety that comes in taking the first steps toward help and wholeness can be terrifying. But we live in 2013, not 1980. Technology is truly our friend. The fact that you’re reading this blog now, if you didn’t end up here by mistake that is, means you’re pretty adept with a search engine and are already on the path to finding support.
So many other women have taken this same journey and have come out on the other side…some happier for the struggle, and…yes, some wishing that they could push all their feelings aside and just be satisfied in their marriage. It’s important to hear all those stories…at least for guidance from women who may be a little further along than we are…at most to let us know that we’re not alone and NOT crazy.
When I started looking for support almost two years ago, I was surprised by what I found. Not saying that there is a ton of help for women in my shoes. But what is out there is pretty good.
Over the next few weeks, I’m going to highlight some of those resources here. If i have anything to offer from this, sharing what I’ve learned means the most. I hope it helps.