Category Archives: coming out

Another step–coming out to my daughter

So…I came out to my daughter this week. Holy shit. I CAME OUT TO MY DAUGHTER THIS WEEK!!!! Writing it all big and gay like that is actually me screaming in my head (and giggling a little bit after). This … Continue reading

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Take off

I have spread my gay-ass wings as far as I can in secret. I’ve lived one life in the open and another behind a dark curtain for years. That does not come without consequences. In the next few weeks, I … Continue reading

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Why I would not wish this situation on my worst enemy

There is nothing cool or trendy about coming out later in life; especially when you’ve already established a life…complete with children a husband and a stable, settled home. It’s one thing to stand on the edge of a precipice and … Continue reading

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Tripping Through the Pain Dance

I can see it happening in front of me like a movie. I’m watching it from a distance but am helpless to stop it. I’m anxious, restless, stressed…feeling uncomfortable in and about a situation that I should have dealt with … Continue reading

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Giving In

This weekend I was supposed to do something empowering and freeing. I had planned on attending a weekend of workshops for late-blooming lesbians who were married to men. It’s a yearly event. I wasn’t able to go last year, but … Continue reading

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Trusting and Moving

Life has not been sweet to me lately. I’m getting poked, pinched and prodded from all directions, and sometimes it’s easier to curl up in a little ball to escape the onslaught instead facing the problem. So while I’ve been … Continue reading

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Right On Time

I’m sitting here at my desk waiting for my coffee to kick in…which means I’m half asleep…which means I’m not in work mode yet…plus, I’m in a bit of a contemplative mood. So when I checked my email and found … Continue reading

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I am a queer woman of color

The title of this post says sooooo much. And seeing as this is the first time that I’ve actually typed those words, it means so much, too…(giddy, hand-over-mouth-bouncing-in-chair squeeing…) Coming into my own as woman who loves women has opened … Continue reading

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A Den of Mothers

Blessings, wisdom, and comfort can come from anywhere. I’m learning that more and more on this journey. Here’s an experience I had early last year that really hit that point home. Originally blogged at the amazing Elixher.com, I’m re-posting it … Continue reading

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The Mirror Holder

As I have said before, open-and-honest are not my forte. It takes me months, if not years, of building up the nerve…finding the guts…growing a backbone…getting the balls — or any other dumb ass, body-related idioms you can come up … Continue reading

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